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"...Sensitivity to others combines with a creative
imagination
Your
imaginative abilities are supported by a deep instinctive insight
into human behaviour and motives. You have a profound response
to the world of symbols, myths and images, and may excel in one
of the arts, such as music, painting, dance or theatre, where your
ability to intuit character and mimic it in plastic forms may give
you exceptional talents. Or you may combine your imagination and
your sensitivity to the handling of others' problems, offering
much sympathy and vision to loved ones or to those whom you might
choose to counsel or help. Your grasp of the potentials of a situation
combines with sensitivity and compassion for the needs and problems
of others, and this lends a human touch to the strange and often
uncanny abilities of your intuition. Your great gift lies in the
sensing of human potential and the deeper and more meaningful lessons
to be found in life's dilemmas; and you blend this with gentleness
and a sense of timing that can allow you to midwife this potential
in yourself and in others. Your imagination never divorces itself
from the world of human feelings because your perceptiveness and
concern will always keep you related to other people, so that all
your creative hunches and inspirations ultimately work to enhance
and enrich interpersonal
relationships...."
"...The need to be needed dominates all other motivations
Your
openheartedness and strong feelings of empathy for others make
you a supportive, caring and naturally self- sacrificing personality.
You would do anything for those you love, and tend to forgive them
almost anything; and however much you are hurt and disappointed,
you do not lose your belief in the importance of kindness or in
the worthiness of others. You take little pleasure in that absolute
autonomy and freedom to direct your own life that many people claim
they want; for your chief pleasure springs from living for and
through others. You are not inclined toward cold ambition, or the
need to be somebody in the world's eyes. For this reason you function
at your best when working in a cooperative capacity - linking people
together and smoothing over dilemmas, supervising group networks
and activities, and interpreting to others the directions of more
aggressive souls. You love the feeling that you have been helpful
to somebody, and whether it is in your work or your personal life,
you need to be needed - not for any enduring strength or dynamism,
but for your fluid empathy and understanding, your imagination,
and your capacity to forgive. You are not very adept at drawing
boundaries and protecting yourself, for you hate the feeling of
isolation which too much self-reliance produces - and you would
rather love and suffer, than be unloving and unharmed...."
"..A tendency to give away the power of choice to
others
You possess tact, gentleness and the ability to adjust your wishes
to the prevailing needs of those around you - and to put forth
your own ideas and suggestions subtly while preserving a friendly
and harmonious atmosphere. You enjoy
making decisions which are cooperative with others, and need support and encouragement
in individual ventures. You are not a rugged adventurer who must
make every choice alone..."
"..You are a gifted diplomat and an understanding and wise
counselor or teacher or guide, not to mention a naturally talented
actor or actress. You can work extremely well with children, or
with those who need gentle
and sensitive handling. This is when you are at your best. ...."
"...The secret craving to first and best
You
give the impression of being the most adaptable of people, always
ready to consider the other person's feelings and to do what makes
him or her happy. But there is something in you which is ill-suited
to this kind of compromise - a fierce spirit of dynamic energy
which longs to go its own way and do exactly as it pleases. You
are much more self- willed and self-preoccupied than you might
like to admit, for admission would of course mean that the dreaded
word "selfish" which you sometimes use a little too freely about
others might also apply to you. But the selfishness of your high-spirited
and energetic shadow is a healthy selfishness, and if you are able
to integrate some of its fiery, impetuous and enthusiastic qualities
into your life, you may find that you have much more energy, humour
and optimism to bring to your experiences - as well as the ability
to say no sometimes if you do not want to do something, and the
courage to do it alone if no one wants to do it with you. The innate
rash self-confidence of this secret side of you may seem offensive
to your gentler values, for it is the "me first" spirit that puts
responsibility for others back in their own hands..."
"...Loyalty to individual values
You
don't let anyone dictate to you who you should be or what you should
do with your life; for you live from a conviction of the sacredness
of your own individuality. Although you enjoy the company of other
people, and attract them easily because of the vitality of your
personality, you are quite incapable of compromising your ideals
and freedom of action for very long in order to please anyone -
even those you love most. You resent having your liberty curtailed
by rules which have been designed by the herd for the herd. You
are in love with your differentness, and have considerable contempt
for those who live their lives like sheep trying to copy some image
offered by media, advertising and Mary Whitehouse. You want to
be left alone to express yourself in your own way; but rather than
making those necessary small external compromises which might grant
you the privacy to pursue your own lifestyle, you tend to demand,
with a certain charming arrogance, that the world make adjustments
for you. Surprisingly, much of the time it does, at least within
the circles in which you move, because you possess the intelligence
and force of character to be
convincing even if you are being outrageous.
Because you are so loyal to your inner vision,
you are likely not only to appear and feel different; you are also
likely to make a valuable contribution of some kind, possibly through
creative work, which acts like yeast on the imaginations of others
because it stirs up in them their own longing to define themselves
as individuals. This is the psychology behind the "star", whether
this is an actor, a writer, a politician, a painter or any other
person who seems to have greater vision and farther-seeing eyes,
and who embodies a goal of some kind that others can model themselves
after. Although you may never be famous in the grand sense, somewhere
within the circle of your professional and personal life you have
considerable influence on others simply because you do not depend
on them for your ideas and values. This gives you power, because
you are your own person...."
"...A secret dependency on the good opinions
of others
In
contrast to your strong individuality there is another figure in
your inner psychic drama which you have necessarily had to exclude
from your conscious values and behaviour in order to remain firmly
your own person and committed to your own unique path. The shadow-side
of you, which you generally repress, cares inordinately about what
others think of you; for this figure is a much more dependent and
less defined personality than the one with which you are familiar.
It is the thing which secretly drives you to constantly seek the
approval and validation of others - even when this validation is
expressed as grudging respect, or even condemnation (which you
take as a compliment because
it is more flattering than being ignored).
This need of others ranges from an ordinary
social need - to belong and be approved of by those very people
whom you often dismiss as unoriginal and boring - to a deep unconscious
connection with the collective unconscious of which you, like everyone,
are a part. The shadow-side of your personality acts like a powerful
undercurrent in the sea, drawing you out toward others in a need
to have your identity and your creative offerings recognised and
validated, although you profess most of the time not to care about
the opinions of others unless they are of a standard that matches
your own. Everything in the psyche works in polarities, and the
whole issue of individuality, which is so important to you and
a goal in itself for the whole of your life, cannot be seen except
within the perspective of its opposite - merging with the group,
and the similarity rather than the differences between people.
You could not take such an individualistic stance unless there
were something to pit your vision against; but this something really
lies within yourself, and is the part of you which is just like
everybody else. More mystically speaking, it IS everybody else.
If you can accept this and live a little less defensively, you
can utilise your great creative potential to express ideas and
views which touch everyone, and are not merely an angry and rebellious
statement of being different....."
"...A humbler and more selfless character
lies in the shadow
Thus
your shadow-side is rooted in ordinary mundane life, mortal rather
than godlike, humble rather than arrogant, and deeply dependent
on the love and validation of others. More importantly, it is also
deeply dependent on validation
from an inner, rather than an outer, source; and this is really what is meant
by a spiritual or mystical aspiration. The sense that you serve
something higher, and that the world's notice is a by-product rather
than the source of your value
in life, is the gift that your shadow-side can provide. You are both more ordinary
and more extraordinary than you realise. The nice, decent, boring
dimension of your shadow is really your link with common humanity,
and the antidote
to your chronic hidden feelings of loneliness, emptiness and isolation; and it
is also a link with that sense of a higher purpose which can offer
your life value even when you are not performing.
..."
"...The importance of individual creative effort
You
will never find fulfillment by following the crowd. Your deepest
satisfaction in life will come from any and every effort you make
to place the stamp of your own creative imagination on what you
produce - in whatever field you work. The arts may provide you
with the best vehicles for such individual effort - writing, painting,
the theatre, music - and even if you do not wish to turn such pursuits
into money-making ventures, you need to allow time and space in
your life for creative work. It is the most important thing you
can do for yourself, although there may be no practical reward
which you can put in the bank. You need to discover that mysterious
essence which makes you unique and worthwhile, above and beyond
the practical contributions you offer to others. And you will only
find that sense of self through discovering its imprint on the
images and ideas which spring from your heart and your imagination.
No matter how many worldly responsibilities you have, and no matter
how concerned you are with the good opinion of others, it is essential
that you pursue something you truly love, by yourself and for yourself.
Without this deep validation of your own soul, nothing else in
your life will really make sense...."
"...Learning to navigate emotional depths
There
is one sphere of life where any effort to develop yourself will
always result in an increased feeling of strength and self-respect,
because this is the area of both your greatest anxiety and, paradoxically,
your greatest potential. You are a person who needs to feel in
control of everything that happens in life, and this particularly
applies in the domain of your emotions. You fear the unknown depths
in yourself and the unseen powers in life itself - and sometimes
you go to great and self-damaging lengths to defend yourself against
possible invasion, chaos or powerlessness. You need to find the
courage to face the unknown, by exploring those hidden drives and
compulsions which lie beneath your tightly restrained surface,
and by allowing other people to come close enough to both hurt
you and bring you transformation and joy. For you cannot have one
without the other. If you can make the effort to let yourself be
vulnerable to life, rather than donning your suit of armour every
time it threatens you with an emotionally overwhelming experience,
you will discover that acceptance of your own depths and the self-knowledge
this brings are in the end the only true and indestructible form
of security.
Thus one of your chief fears - of emotional
hurt, rejection and humiliation - can become an indestructible
base on which you build a sense of confidence in the worth of your
creative vision. For in confronting your emotional inhibitions
and anxieties, and in learning to trust others more, you will discover
how to put your real self honestly in all you produce. You need
a creative vehicle for your ideas and your imagination, either
through your work or through a hobby which you love. But you cannot
create anything truly satisfying without revealing something to
others of your innermost soul...."
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