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"...Romantic vision and the gift of imagination 
You are one of the world's true romantics, for your intensely
active imagination must always inject into ordinary circumstances an aura
of meaning, potential and purpose without which you find daily life inconsequential
and sometimes suffocating. The great strength of your nature lies in your
well-developed relationship to the creative power of the unconscious,
which allows you to look into the future and envisage potentials which
are not immediately apparent in the present. Because of this, you tend
to see opportunities which others miss. You have a habit of living mostly
in the future, always looking toward the next project and the next stage
of the journey. Yours is a temperament which will never stagnate, because
whatever you have accomplished, it is experienced not as a final achievement
but as a temporary stage on the way to something bigger, better, more
enriching and more meaningful..."
"...The romantic vision rejects life's limitations
However, because of your emphasis on the imaginative and intuitive side
of life, you run the risk of forgetting worldly limits. You tend to be
on rather poor terms with day-to-day reality and its responsibilities
and demands, because these thwart the vision that means so much to you.
You may resent the boredom of a routine job, feeling secretly that you
are entitled to something more special and glamourous; or you may dislike
having to bind yourself to domestic obligations because these stop the
flow of the imagination. You may also resist having to select one thing
to which you must apply yourself, preferring to feel that you have many
potentials open in the future; and this could result in you becoming a
"jack of all trades" who dabbles in everything and produces nothing lasting.
This is the "one day when I grow up..." syndrome, which may be appropriate
in youth but which begins to feel rather uncomfortable with the passing
of the years..."
"...You
will sooner or later need to make better friends with the physical world.
This effort can be rewarding and exciting because your sensual nature,
although often repressed or neglected, is powerful and capable of great
intensity and pleasure, and your uncannily accurate intuition can also
be applied to practical matters to ensure your success. Any achievement
of a material kind can be enormously rewarding to you, and you possess
a rare capacity to respond to nature and to the beauty of the physical
world - if you will only stop running away from what you call "lower"
or "unimportant". In very personal matters such as sexual expression your
unease with the body can also make you shy and awkward, and here too there
might be a promise of much greater fulfilment if you can allow yourself
to experience the powerful demands of the instincts which you sometimes
fear. Your perception of physical reality may be too negative, and it
is possible that family attitudes in your early life have contributed
to your undervaluing of yourself in this realm of life. If you can learn
the art of being an ordinary mortal in a sometimes unromantic world, then
your unusual and powerful imaginative gifts will always bring you new
adventures as well as earning you concrete rewards. ..."
"...Interest in people and need for social involvement dominate
other motivations
You thrive on being where all the interesting people are, where
ideas are being born and new trends started, and where you can be seen,
heard, and part of what in American slang is called "where it's all happening".
Whether your interests are more cerebral (political or philosophical),
or concerned with cultural events and trends (the latest best- selling
novel, the new play, the innovative opera production), or an expression
of more extraverted activities (sport, fashion), you are always one of
the first to take up new things and people, and one of the last to leave
the party. You genuinely like people - provided they are not too depressing
and refrain from smearing their emotional
problems all over the happy atmosphere - and you are interested in what
others have to say; and generally people like you too, for you possess
a happy spirit that generates its own excitement and is open-hearted and
tolerant of others' eccentricities. Beneath the surface of your apparently
light-hearted and optimistic approach to life you are not a shallow person,
and you know the value and strength of friendships and social bonds...."
"...Humanitarian concerns deepen your
sociable nature
You are not merely sociable; you are socially concerned, and
people matter to you not only because they provide you with pleasure (a
convivial evening with friends can always relax you and make you happy).
They also matter from a broader, more humanitarian point of view. You
believe in the rights of others, and your vision of human nature is a
positive one, full of potential. You are interested in fostering growth
or progress in society in some way, whether in the educational, cultural
or spiritual realm, and you combine a facility for working cooperatively
with an ideology or personal philosophy that aims to help others on some
level. You are a diplomatic person, and have managed to master the art
of being able to put forth original and innovative ideas while appearing
to be completely nonaggressive. You make full and excellent use of the
royal "we", although for you "we" means the group. Thus the group usually
believe that they, rather than you, came up with the idea first. Because
you are neither arrogant nor self-seeking, you can permit this without
feeling demeaned, as long as the objective is reached; and therefore you
are a formidable person when it comes to organisation work and the manipulation
of group dynamics..."
"...What you are not so good at is difficult emotional confrontations.
There is an ethereal, airy and butterfly-like quality about you which
some people might call elusive. You can be delightful and charming and
witty, but you tend to fade away and vanish in the nicest possible way
if too many demands are placed upon you. You like a lot of people a lot
of the time, not one person with intensity all of the time; and you tend
to keep the emotional doorways and fire escapes clear because you are
fundamentally restless at heart and become easily bored - by routines,
routine ideas, and routine people..."
"...A natural gift for handling the public
Whether you admit it or not, you love being in the public eye.
You have an instinctive feeling for what constitutes a good performance
and know how to handle a group, for you combine natural acting ability
with elegance of expression; and your ideas are strongly flavoured with
whatever is new, lively and currently relevant. Even if you are not actively
ambitious, these qualities make you sought after in your work. You are
not materially grasping, and your ambition is not readily identifiable
in the ordinary way. But you enjoy expressing what you believe in, and
also thrive on the feeling that you are needed, that you have opened people's
minds a little, that you have brought some quality of beauty or happiness
into their lives.
It is hard for anyone to penetrate past your public face, for the pleasing,
friendly and intelligent personality which you project is automatic and
never fails you. Whatever you are like when you wake up in the morning,
few people ever see it, for you not only need to be liked by people; it
is a matter of ethics. You like to be bright and light and positive, and
you have considerable pride about dumping your personal problems onto
others. After all, to your mind, they have enough of their own. You would
do well in fields such as teaching, counselling, group organising or media;
or even theatre or film, for you have a natural aptitude for playing to
the unconscious needs of the audience and offering them what they did
not even realise they wanted. Thus you depend upon others for your livelihood,
and you prefer it that way; for your work and your feeling of belonging
to a larger human family are inextricably bound together..."
"...A hidden need for solitude causes feelings of loneliness
and isolation
In contrast to the sociable, articulate and outgoing qualities
of your personality, there is another protagonist in your inner psychic
drama. This hidden side of you comprises all those qualities which you
have had to exclude from your conscious values and behaviour in order
to pursue your fulfilling personal and professional involvements with
others. Your shadow-side is not the humanitarian and humanist that you
are, for this part of you actively dislikes people, preferring solitude
and quiet, and finding a group of more than three rather strenuous, irritating
and even boring. It is hard for you to express this antisocial shadow,
for this might mean offending others by withdrawing too harshly from them;
and it would also mean questioning your belief that the welfare of others
is more important than your own..."
"...Hurts
in early life leave scars and feelings of mistrust
Some secret loneliness or unhappiness springing from your childhood
has made you a good deal more suspicious about other people's motives
than you appear. Probably one or both of your parents was unable to express
genuine affection and warmth, and made love conditional upon good behaviour;
and your shadow-side does not trust others, believing them to be out for
what they can get. This dark side of your personality always looks for
the strings and conditions attached to any offering from another person,
and is determined to defend your more vulnerable feelings lest you be
hurt or used as you felt you were early in life.
You hold within you a dark and rather negative vision of life, which
might permit happiness for others but never for you. Thus there is something
very inconsistent about your usually positive philosophy, for you cannot
seem to apply it to yourself. Because of your unconscious defensiveness,
you tend to withhold your real feelings from people, and you are prone
to accumulating a certain amount of unspoken resentment because you try
to please too much of the time while secretly feeling you are being taken
advantage of. Thus your friendly sociability sometimes serves as a mask
and a protection against spells of deep depression and loneliness, to
which you are curiously prone. Your shadow expects others to reject you,
which reflects not only a very destructive image of other people, but,
more importantly, reflects your own deep denigration of your worth. Try
to face your spells of negative feeling, for you are a moodier and more
melancholy person than you like to admit; and you tend to let others take
advantage of you, which you call being needed, because you are afraid
of rejection and loneliness. Perhaps you need to learn to do a little
more rejecting yourself, rather than surrounding yourself with people
you do not feel deeply drawn to just for the sake of company..."
"...A psychologically absent figure
It seems that, on a deep level, you did not know your father
at all. It is on the inner level that this experience has occurred, although
your father may have actually been physically absent in your childhood
as well; but even if he was present, it is on the inner level that you
have been "unfathered". There is a sense of emptiness or lack in connection
with your experience of your father, and there is as a result a kind of
lost quality about you yourself. No matter how much you achieve in life,
you are a perpetual observer watching it all unfold on a cinema screen,
without a sense of direct involvement in your own life. This rather lonely
and lost quality has its roots in your childhood, and it is not wholly
negative; for you have learned to develop a quality of detachment and
self-containment which is of great value. But you need a great deal of
encouragement and approval from others, because you were somehow not "real"
to your father in early life and are therefore not always "real" to yourself
now..."
"...Selflessness and self-sacrifice 
The subjective image of your mother portrayed in your birth horoscope
is a poignant one. There is much of the mythic or archetypal Suffering
Woman contained in this image, and probably your mother experienced many
difficult circumstances in her life - either in her own childhood or in
her marriage, or through illness or financial difficulty, or through the
necessity of sacrificing her most cherished desires in order to look after
others. Although your mother may have made sacrifices willingly because
of her love and need of her family, nevertheless you have within you considerable
guilt about her unhappiness, and a deep unconscious conviction that you
are in some way responsible for redeeming her sacrifices through your
own self-sacrifice. This places a great inner obligation on you, which
you may carry without realising it, yet which has probably led you to
choose a field of work where you have to deal with and help the pain or
confusion of others. The experience of passive suffering and sacrifice
which you have inherited through your relationship with your mother gives
you a deep well of compassion, sensitivity and responsiveness to the emotional
needs of others. This receptivity is a gift, which can be expressed either
in an artistic field where sensitivity to the moods of the audience is
required, or in the helping professions where it is so obviously needed..."
"...A tendency to excess
Your motto in love is that more is better. This means more romance,
more candlelight, more courtly declarations of affection, and, perhaps,
more partners. You may justify your profligacy by means of an ideology
which says that people should not possess each other, or a spiritual vision
which says that you need the right soul-mate, or an aesthetic ideal which
tells you that your present companion is not quite perfect. Or you may
simply be honest about your love of variety. But you are going to have
certain difficulties if you make the decision to commit yourself to one
man for a lifetime. It is not that you cannot love; for, if anything,
you love to excess, and throw your whole self into it. But you crave adventure
too, and you are deeply idealistic about love; and time and familiarity
are the enemies of such a romantic spirit. No relationship, however passionate,
will automatically remain mysterious and challenging if you do not nurture
its unpredictability by frequent holidays and travel with your man, frequent
absences from the domestic front with its endless responsibilities, and
frequent admonitions to yourself not to take your partner for granted.
Otherwise you might be faithful from a sense of honour and idealism, but
not from real inclination. It would be better to be honest about your
own restlessness, for there are many levels on which your adventurous
spirit can be lived out, and some of them can include a stable relationship
and do not necessitate deceit and betrayal. But it would be better not
to repress this side of yourself, for then you are really asking for trouble.
You are more prone than many people to falling in love at first sight,
at the wrong time, in the wrong place, and with someone other than the
person with whom you came in the door..."
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