Valid during many months: During this time a particular sore point of yours
is disturbed, a sensitivity or vulnerability that you may not be aware of,
as this wound is part of your being. It was probably inflicted a long time
ago, in your early childhood, and all that remains today is a scar - a
certain vulnerability or injury.
So it may well be that you do not really notice anything when your old
wound is disturbed, as you react to this as you have perhaps always reacted
to such situations: You are distressed, hurt, you distance yourself and
forget the incident as quickly as possible.
This can occur during conversations with friends, when together with your
partner, or during exchanges with your colleagues at work. Nobody wants to
do you any harm, you know that perfectly well; the hurt takes place
unintentionally, and probably your counterpart notices nothing because you
hide your feelings well.
If you do not react by withdrawing as you usually do, but instead show that
you have been hurt, you will be forced to explain some things in more
detail - not just to your counterpart but also to yourself. In that case
you can use this incident as a key to a hidden or forgotten earlier painful
experience. This will hardly reduce your pain, but will give you the
freedom to behave differently in this, for you, typical situation. If you
are more open and understanding about your own hurt, others will understand
you better in future.
That is, of course, easier said than done, as this sore point is presently
very deeply situated. But this moment in time offers you an outstanding
opportunity to stand far enough outside yourself to show your hurt. If you
recognize the situation in question and react to it, you will win new
strength and confidence.