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Astrology for Lovers

by Liz Greene
I am a  and
She / He is a  and

Scorpio with Aries

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You are a Scorpio

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The Aries partner

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The Aries man

The Aries man has a brave and noble heart. He can also be insufferably patronising. You may have to hit him with a brick to remind him that his interference may not be welcome, and you have to virtually turn him inside out to get him to understand that you can protect yourself. The Aries man often feels obliged to keep up a heroic image even when he doesn't feel very confident.

Knights in Shining Armour get tired too, and hurt and frightened, but you're much more likely to see crankiness and bad temper than a show of real vulnerability. The Aries man often pushes himself beyond his limits trying so hard to be the Ideal Male. It helps a lot if he can relax and recognise that he's human too. But Aries has difficulty acknowledging his humanity, because he's so caught up in the world of myth.

He can alternate between breathtakingly poetic gestures of generosity and some pretty crude insensitivity and trampling of others' feelings. When he's in verbal battering mode, he doesn't realise how badly his words can wound. When he's on his hobby-horse, he expects you to believe so totally in what he's doing that you're expected to abandon your own goals and follow him on crusade. But if you believe in his dreams, he's an unflinching friend and will defend you and protect you with utter selflessness.

You may sometimes get the queer feeling that he worships and adores some vague glimmering figure just behind your left shoulder. When you try to tell him you're just an ordinary human, he often can't accept it. Aries men are prone to idealise their loved ones. It's hard to bring him down to earth enough to let your real personality emerge. And sometimes - if he's an extreme fiery type - your real personality, however lovable, is just too human, and it can send him off on the next quest. It's easier to be in love with an ideal image than a real individual, because that means he has to compromise and adjust. Aries is not very good at the art of adjustment.

There's certainly no lack of passion in the Aries man, and no lack of romance either. This isn't a once-a-week-on- Saturday-night man. Aries men can be Don Juans, but they aren't quotidian lovers. But you have to appreciate his romantic soul. Too much realism kills his fire, and too much routine crushes his spirit. Hide the dirty laundry, get someone else to fix the leaky tap, and let him sweep you off your feet. The sweeping may be basic and physical, or subtle and intellectual. He may also try to change you, re-create you, fill you with his ideas and his visions. This can be very annoying. If you're secure in yourself and don't need to prove your point, it can be inspiring, exciting, and still annoying.

The truth is that the Aries man is very vulnerable when it comes to matters of love. Because he's so idealistic and often childlike, he can be disillusioned and bruised with incredible ease, and that makes him try to protect himself by being a little heavy-handed, or by keeping you unsure of his constancy.

Aries men are very good at making their partners jealous, because even if they're physically faithful, that dream of the ideal love keeps changing and alighting on every new attractive face. But the Aries man has a truly superb quality which you should remember every time he infuriates you by stomping all over your feelings. He loves change, and that includes changing himself.

Although capable of arrogance, petulance and downright bloody-mindedness, he's never complacent. This means that, if he can understand that a relationship is a thing which grows and changes and needs insight and attention, he'll happily make that his cause. And then you get all the benefits of the best and noblest and most inspiring side of the Knight in Shining Armour. And they are badly needed these days.