25-Sep-2016, 09:34 UT/GMT
|Explanations of the symbols|
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You are so unalike that you are fascinated by each other. Watery Cancer, flowing in a personal world of feelings and imaginings, finds Sagittarius' grand quest for understanding life's bigger questions baffling. Fiery Sagittarius, on an endless adventure where the horizon keeps shifting, finds Cancer's anxious emotionality perplexing.
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Whether it's an old plastic bottle, an old lover, an old house, an old belief, an old memory, Cancer hangs on. One of your strongest urges is the urge for security, and security usually means clinging to the past. It's an emotional motivation, not a practical one. Beneath the Crab's tenacious penchant for not letting go of anything lies one of ... read more
Sagittarians can exhibit a certain reluctance when it comes to things like marital vows. Since this sign's great love is for future possibilities, they'll quite naturally balk when they're asked to give up all those possibilities for one reality for the rest of their life. "'Til death do us part" is a phrase which resonates powerfully because of ... read more
The Sagittarius man often attracts a partner who sees this endearing absent-mindedness and sets about trying to take care of him. What he doesn't need, repeat, doesn't need, is to be taken care of. Of course he'll tell you he does. He'd live in a pigsty without you, and his clothes would be rumpled and his bills not paid on time. But if you do these things for him, he'll grow to resent it. If you've been lured into the caretaker role, stop playing it at once.
You can't parent him until he grows up. His definition of growing up is different from yours. Most people believe maturity is about taking responsibility in the tangible world. For Sagittarians, maturity is seeing, realising, understanding.
Not that you're to blame for trying. The Centaur is an exciting and dynamic man, whether intellectually or in action, and his fleetness of foot and untamed vision make him terribly appealing, especially to partners who long for a little excitement and inspiration in their lives.
There's no doubt that Sagittarius' adventurous soul is guaranteed not to bore you (unless he's going on about his current philosophical, spiritual or political hobby-horse). But if you can create some adventure and excitement in your own life, you'll enjoy him and his vision much more. Also, you're demonstrating that you're a travelling companion who can have adventures yourself, and not someone who's joined to him at the hip. One of Sagittarius' basic approaches to life is to laugh at it. The world is, after all, a rather silly place. But you have to have a sense of humour yourself, or otherwise you won't understand what he's laughing at, especially when he laughs at you. The Sagittarius man can be a terrible tease, and he's not averse to taking a sly poke at anyone who's too serious or pompous. He doesn't like hypocrisy, and he can be hair-raisingly blunt when it comes to telling you what he thinks of you. He's big-hearted and kind, but not blessed with an overabundance of tact.
Fortunately, this sometimes hurtful side of his nature is balanced by the fact that he can laugh at himself too. His biggest problem in relationship is crossing that dreadful bridge between romantic fantasy and earth-plane reality. For many Centaurs, it's just too big a chasm, and they never succeed in getting to the other side. They often leave a trail of broken love affairs behind them and are still pursuing the dream even when they're clearly long past being able to fully live it. Most Sagittarian men, however, do make peace with earth-plane reality sooner or later, albeit reluctantly.
Beneath the apparently ironic or skittish approach some Sagittarian men display toward commitment, you'll often find a frightened child who's afraid his romantic ideals will be smashed. Don't mistake that "See you some time" approach for a cold heart. The Sagittarian man has a heart of gold, when he's really in love. It's just that his dreams bruise easily. Eventually he learns to humanise his expectations of life and love, and trust and friendship are the guideposts that can help him on his way. He can offer those in abundance himself, and he deserves them in exchange.