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Astrology for Lovers

by Liz Greene
I am a  and
She / He is a  and

Aries with Scorpio

Passion and power are likely to be big themes with this combination, and combustible Aries is a match for deep, sultry Scorpio in energy, ...  read more

You are an Aries

You need a cause, a mission, a battle in which you can trounce the enemy. The slightest whiff of a challenge and out comes that old suit ...  read more

The Scorpio partner

Enough has been written about Scorpio's famous passion to make further descriptions redundant. These descriptions aren't strictly accurate ...  read more

The Scorpio man

Let's strip away the glamour and the smokescreens and see what's underneath. The emotional needs of the Scorpio man are utterly human: affection, acceptance, reassurance, intimacy, love, companionship. In large quantities. Scorpio men cannot bear coldness or falseness in a partner. That mask of detachment is a mask. Remember that. No Scorpio man will advertise the fact that he's hurt or feeling neglected. You have to train as a telepath.

The Scorpio man is embarrassed by the presence of so much strong emotion in himself. That's when he becomes the hard- driving, ruthless, ambitious Scorpio of the textbook descriptions. But think of what it took to get him that way. Can you ever get a Scorpio man to let down his defences? Maybe. Maybe not. In the end, it isn't up to you. It rests with the Scorpio himself.

This isn't an easy man to live with. For one thing, you won't get straight answers if you ask pertinent questions like, "Do you love me?" On the other hand, you'll get brutal scrapings of the bottom of the barrel when you least want it - like a vicious hour-long analysis of your motives in flirting with So-and-so at the party, and why it stems from your sexual inadequacies and your rejection by your parents. If you thought you had secrets from him, think again.

The Scorpio man can cut deep if he wants to, and his need to retaliate can take precedence over tolerance and compassion. He can be very destructive when he's hitting back at you for some hurt you've inflicted on him without your even realising it. Tell you that you hurt his feelings? Not likely. Often he won't apologise either.

To live with this man, you must truly respect and like him. Passionate attraction alone isn't enough. And you must understand him - how his acute perceptions isolate him, what his depth of feeling does to him in a society which rewards superficiality, what his sensitivity means in a world which doesn't value it. If you can't like him, then leave him alone, because you'll never change him, and if you ask, he'll probably do the opposite.

This man doesn't appreciate either an Amazon or a clinging limpet. He wants to be needed. On the other hand, he respects strength. If you make allowances for his pride, which won't permit him to admit a wrong or lose a battle, no lover is more devoted, compassionate, insightful or gentle. Show your pain to a Scorpio man and he'll do anything for you. Treat him with shallowness, demean him, and you have no chance of receiving anything at all except his unpleasantness, which can be unbelievably unpleasant. And don't trifle. A Scorpio man who thinks he's being mocked with can be the most difficult person in the world. His pride won't allow it.

And what about the possessiveness? Well, let's be realistic. It's not going to go away. Nor is his feeling that he has the prerogative - for flirtations, for affairs, for whatever he feels he wants or needs - while you don't, since you're his. Because there's a battleground inside him, the Scorpio man perceives life as a battleground, and you're either on his side or not. It's that simple. This man can't forgive betrayal, but it's a much deeper issue than mere sexual betrayal. When he gives his love, he bares his soul, and if you betray that, you've lost him. Forever. You can betray him even if you're sexually constant, just by treating his deepest and most passionate beliefs and convictions with contempt or dismissal.

Somewhere deep inside, the Scorpio man is a warrior fighting for the truth. He may not think in such grand metaphysical terms, and he might not welcome too much probing of his motives. But there it is. You don't turn to your comrade on the battlefield and say, "Well, actually, I think the enemy might have a point. Let's be reasonable and discuss where you're at fault."

You're for him or against him. He's prepared to offer the same passionately loyalty he expects in return. The best gift you can give him is to believe in him, and side with him when he's going through one of his "The world doesn't understand me!" phases. Scorpio trusts few people because few people are really trustworthy. Give him your true allegiance, and you'll have a genuine dyed-in-the-wool champion. For life.

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