31-Oct-2014, 05:04 UT/GMT
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Some of the most admirable human qualities make their appearance in the Virgo man. One of these is his desire to be of service. He's generous if you need support, advice, or material assistance. Always reasonable, he'll draw you out about your difficulties, and he loves to offer the wisdom of his own experience. Give him a problem and he'll attack it like a chess game, and usually his detached insights are sharp and sound. There's a sensible, sane feeling about this man.
The Virgo man rarely pretends to be anything other than himself. Also, this man will actually talk to you as an equal. On the other hand, his self-control and coolness can be irritating and even hurtful. He may hang up his coat carefully before he kisses you, because order must come first. Sometimes he's horribly socially sensitive, and won't show affection in public because "someone" might notice that he actually has passions. If he's an extreme type, everything might be scheduled, including sex. If this starts getting to you, remember that it isn't easy to be a Virgo man in our culture.
This sign is sensitive and vulnerable, and Virgo men often struggle to be tough, cool and in control. Virgos hate having their privacy invaded without an invitation (and that means emotional as well as physical). If you want to live comfortably with such firm boundaries, you need a sense of humour and some boundaries of your own. It's not really about keeping you out. It's about keeping his own emotions in.
What makes this complex and sometimes insufferable temperament loveable is that the Virgo man, if you tell him the truth calmly and clearly, will always listen. It's one of his most endearing qualities. If he's hurt you or been oblivious to your feelings, try articulating it. Quietly. He'll usually listen, apologise and try to do something about it. If you scream and shout or ooze black atmospheres, he'll withdraw so fast that you'll think you've moved to Antarctica. If you're the really combustible type, try a more resilient and less highly strung sign.
This man simply can't take angry explosions and tempestuous scenes, or long weeping sessions with lots of soggy handkerchiefs. You'll often see the Virgo man fidgeting, biting his fingernails, folding his serviette into tiny fanlike shapes, shredding his lettuce, and doing other little things that betray the highly strung nervous system of this sign. He also tends to somatise his inner tensions, so be prepared to hear about the headaches, skin rashes, muscle tics, stomach upsets, and aching joints.
Virgos can be hypochondriacs when they're stressed out. Since the Virgo man will usually overwork himself anyway, emotional pressure doesn't help. He needs lots of rest, play and nature to heal him. Usually he can't be bothered to make time for all that, since that inevitable list always has "work" at the top. So the onus falls on you to cajole, reason or drag him to a place where, after his initial whingeing, he might even discover that it's quite pleasant to sit in the sun and do nothing.
For all these reasons, the Virgo man isn't always every person's dream of the perfect mate. He has a sensitive, finely tuned and complex nature. He's rarely aggressive, and he lets difficulties nag and nag inside before he takes direct action. He isn't really a Don Juan, although there are some fairly good imitiation Don Juans floating about in the form of terribly insecure Virgo men trying to pretend to be Ariens or Sagittarians.
Trust and good communication are necessary for him to show the more mystical, intuitive, imaginative side of himself, and his delightfully ironic sense of humour won't emerge unless he knows he's in attentive company. Hopefully you didn't choose him to provide you with security, for if so, you're making a sad mistake. Although he's earthy and realistic, he's not interested in playing Sugar Daddy. He's too fluid and changeable and mercurial to tolerate being someone else's Rock of Gibraltar.
Appreciate his intelligence, his wit, his cynical wisdom, his craftsmanship, his shrewdness, his kindness, his sensitivity and his integrity. For those who respect intelligence, real dyed-in-the-soul refinement and grace, and the mysterious charisma of inner solitude, the Virgo man makes those more flamboyant types seem pretty boorish in comparison.