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Astrology for Lovers

by Liz Greene
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Virgo with Libra

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You are a Virgo

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The Libra partner

In one sense, Librans are always lovers, even when they're programming computers, making political speeches or designing a garden. Everything they do, they do with refinement, grace and style. They show their best qualities in a civilised relationship which contains plenty of harmony, compromise and clear, open communication.

If you enjoy tempestuous, violent scenes with slammed doors and smashed crockery and lots of tears and torn clothes, choose another sign. If you're big on heavy silent atmospheres, that's not going to go over well either. Although it's certainly possible to drive a Libran to the point of real explosiveness, it takes a lot of work, and afterward you'll find that, far from enjoying all that passionate intensity, your Libran partner loathes every minute of it, loathes you, loathes himself for reaching that disgracefully bestial level of behaviour, and never forgets it.

If you want to discuss love problems with a Libra, you must discuss them. With words, in clear, logical, grammatically sound sentences. You can't just emote. And make sure you temper your accusations with a good helping of, "Yes, I know that part is my fault", because otherwise the Libran sense of fairness will be offended. In short, learn diplomacy.

It can all get too intellectualised for some people. Libra is capable of spending hours discussing a relationship - what's wrong with it, what's right with it, how "we" (don't forget the royal Libran "we") can make it better. In the end, Librans, for all their extraordinary intelligence, can show a surprisingly small capacity to act on these ideals in an emotionally convincing way.

Libra's feeling nature is quite childlike, very powerful, and usually repressed. When they become horribly rational and discuss emotions like a political debate with pros, cons, and suggested fair compromises, you might feel like doing something really basic, like setting the house on fire and screaming. Yet having a reasonable partner can be a great boon. It means you can reason with him.

Of course there are times when reason has no place in love, and this is often Libra's most difficult and painful lesson. You may wait a long time for your Libra partner to offer a genuine and spontaneous emotional response which hasn't been thought out carefully first. But if you can truly understand and respect Libra's need for harmony and civilised behaviour, it can make a big difference.

Librans can be gently coaxed into trusting their emotions, if the relationship is mutually respectful. But they can't become somebody else. If you can't accept the innate Libran tendency to rely on reason, try something a little more explosive, like an Aries or a Scorpio. The need for companionship makes Libra very companionable, and if you're a ferociously independent type who likes to do everything alone, you may have a difficult time with Libra, who likes to do everything together.

They aren't in the least bit weak. Far from it. Librans can be determined, tenacious and unstoppable if they believe in an ideal. It's just that they're people-lovers, and even a quiet, introverted Libra needs an understanding and interested mate and companion with whom to share ideals and dreams. Librans are deeply interested in making relationships work, and if you get involved with a Libran, you're the beneficiary of that romantic idealism. For such a priceless gift, it's well worth learning to communicate with your Libran partner rather than just dissolving into tears or shouting and slamming the door.

The Libra man

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