8-Feb-2016, 12:46 UT/GMT
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In some ways this is an ideal combination, because earthy, orderly Virgo can offer containment and understanding while watery, affectionate Cancer can offer warmth and emotional nourishment. Both of you like security, and you may share a love of the past, and an orderly and beautiful domestic environment. Neither of you likes to take too many risks, emotionally ... read more
Whether it's an old plastic bottle, an old lover, an old house, an old belief, an old memory, Cancer hangs on. One of your strongest urges is the urge for security, and security usually means clinging to the past. It's an emotional motivation, not a practical one. Beneath the Crab's tenacious penchant for not letting go of anything lies one of ... read more
The Virgo partner needs to communicate, and work is terribly important. Virgos frequently identify with their jobs and validate themselves according to how well they fulfil their own expectations. If you don't share their interest in work, or show a willingness to talk about the things that are important to them, Virgo can get pretty bored with even the most sexually exciting partner. Emotion and sexuality aren't enough to hold a Virgo's heart. There has to be a meeting of minds.
Virgos like instruction manuals. They'll try anything if it's explained in clear, easy-to-understand steps. Take the instructions away and they often panic. They always read the handbook first, and this makes them terrifyingly competent in almost any sphere of life they choose to explore.
Unfortunately there aren't any instruction manuals for how to deal with love and passion (although there are lots that pretend to be). It's not surprising that so many Virgos are terrified of what they perceive as the dangerous lunacy of falling in love. You'll find many apparently cool and unromantic Virgos, sexually skilled but emotionally withdrawn, who tell you that doing it every night is good for you, but who won't ever utter that scary four-letter word beginning with "L".
Wild moonlit love-at-first-sight encounters aren't Virgo's style. They observe the world too much to take such encounters seriously. And they don't like gambling. Gambling with instantaneous passion can be hurtful and disillusioning. Some Virgos go cold and shut out anyone to whom they're too attracted, because they mistrust anything sudden, uncontrollable or unexplainable.
Of course, you'll sometimes find a really wild Virgo who seems to break the mould. But look closely. You'll usually find that their heart hasn't really been touched. Love, for Virgo, is something that takes time, knowledge, and careful nurturing. In the end, they'll choose the reliable over the flamboyant.
Virgos are realists. You can see this in their tastes, their furnishings and their working life. The useful, the safe, the knowable, the things of quality, are always preferable to the gaudy, the temporarily fashionable, the unreliable, the "cheap and cheerful". It can be a terrible bore or, tempered with a little humour and a sense of fun, it can give a quality of understanding, warmth and wisdom which is powerfully magnetic and highly attractive. The operative word here is "fun". The Virgo partner may need your help in learning the word.
Earthbound Virgos often starve themselves of sheer joy in life. They want it badly, but they're afraid they'll have to pay too high a price for it. Virgo people can often be seen with long lists of what must be done each day. Play is not included on the list. Virgos often choose a partner who embodies all the frivolity, unpredictability and "selfishness" (this is a favourite Virgo word) they won't allow themselves.
If you're the dashing, unreliable fiery type who seems to have a secret pact with the gods and actually gambles with life rather than displaying due caution, you're likely to be a magnet for a Virgo partner. That doesn't mean it's a union made in heaven. Either the Virgo partner loosens up and reveals that wonderfully poetic secret soul - in which case you're in for a delightful future together - or else he tries to play Pygmalion and chips away at you to get you to become more "mature". Then comes the final scenario of you spitting fire like a dragon and booking a solo flight to Goa because you're fed up with always being nagged and criticised.
Relationships are rarely smooth and easy for Virgo, unless they play terribly safe and find themselves another earthy type who fits into that orderly Virgoan universe. But then, sadly, they're always a bit bored, and life's a little dreary, and they feel they've somehow missed the boat. The Virgo partner can be the gentlest, kindest, cleverest and most genuinely helpful of mates. And yes, he can be passionate too. All he has to do is learn, every now and then, to be a child, and recognise that what is useful is not always mutually exclusive of what is alive and meaningful and full of joy.
Some of the most admirable human qualities make their appearance in the Virgo man. One of these is his desire to be of service. He's generous if you need support, advice, or material assistance. Always reasonable, he'll draw you out about your difficulties, and he loves to offer the wisdom of his own experience. Give him a problem and he'll attack ... read more