20-Dec-2014, 12:46 UT/GMT
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The joy of love, for the Aries partner, lies in the excitement of the chase. That means you can't ever let yourself become boringly predictable. Sensible and steady, yes; repetitive and narrow in your thinking and your vision, no. It's often a good idea to be a little reluctant in the face of an Aries' furious romantic declarations. You have to know how to play the game. And in a way, love is a game for the Aries partner. Not that it isn't serious, but it needs to be an adventure, a challenge, a constant exploration of new possibilities.
Aries people need to have a goal. Without the goal, life is meaningless. The goal can be long-term or short-term (short- term is usually best, since this sign isn't endowed with vast quantities of patience), but there must be a shining vision at the end of the chase. The Aries partner needs a quest, and is constitutionally incapable of settling into chronic domesticity without the feeling that there's a new challenge just around the corner. If you want someone who'll always be available to clip the hedges and have Christmas dinner with your parents, year after year, decade after decade, choose another sign.
For Aries, life is a constant struggle to generate new ideas which will improve the world. However impatient, irascible and insensitive they are, Aries people need to feel that they can create new opportunities for change. That's why it's not a good idea for you to be too sensible too much of the time. Admittedly, living with an Aries partner can be stressful if you're the type who likes unchanging security and an immovable status quo.
There's more than a little of the gambler in Aries, whether it's with money, emotions or ideas. Some Aries people love fast cars and dangerous sports. Many Ariens are so infuriatingly energetic that you get exhausted just watching them. They rush about with eighteen irons in the fire, all heating, as though they take some kind of invisible pill which makes it unnecessary to eat, sleep, rest or contemplate. They're usually in a hurry, pushing you along until you're breathless, even when there seems no reason to be that urgent.
When they want something, Ariens aren't subtle (unless you've found one of those frightened Ariens who lost the fighting spirit in childhood). No emotional blackmail or strategic planning or diplomatic statesmanship. Just a simple "Do it!" If you don't, you're liable to get a tantrum - a slammed door and an evening of frosty silence, or a verbal harangue, or a few smashed plates.
Ariens can be querulous, irritable and bad-tempered. When they're fired up about something, nothing else seems as right, as true, as self-evident. They simply don't notice that you have your own opinions, unless you shout at them. And they're often genuinely hurt if you think they're being selfish or egocentric. In fact, the Aries partner is no more selfish than anyone else, and frequently less so. He is just more honest about it. He can be warm, supportive and generous, and will usually believe the best about people until unpleasantly surprised. Meanness and spite bewilder and wound him, so don't unleash it.
Learn to be as direct, open and honourable as your Aries, and you'll fare much better. One way or another, you'll never be bored. Even repressed, insecure Rams aren't boring; their neuroses are always interesting, if taxing. If you want a stolid, placid mate, stay away from Aries. His path in life isn't about contentment. It's about challenge, change and the pursuit of the great dream. Why not join in?
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