Astrology for Lovers

Scorpio with Sagittarius

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The Sagittarius partner

Sagittarians can exhibit a certain reluctance when it comes to things like marital vows. Since this sign's great love is for future possibilities, they'll quite naturally balk when they're asked to give up all those possibilities for one reality for the rest of their life. "'Til death do us part" is a phrase which resonates powerfully because of the word "death", which is what absolute commitment may seem like to the ever-questing Centaur. This is especially true of the Centaur who's already been burned in the days when his youthful ideals were untarnished.

Deep in every Sagittarian soul is a wanderer. That doesn't mean Sagittarius is incapable of a lasting bond. That endless quest for meaning can be lived within the Sagittarian's own soul, and not necessarily through a series of idealised loves. But even with this more philosophical kind of Sagittarian, it's not a good idea to play the jealous, suspicious lover. It won't help at all, and it may drive your Sagittarian straight into more open, less clinging arms. Sagittarians can be deeply responsible, but they don't like being reminded by other people of their responsibilities. If you can't offer love with light, generous hands, then find yourself a needier, more homebound sign.

Sagittarians, being idealists, are easily bewitched by their romantic fantasies. Any "flings" begun on this basis usually mean very little, and if Sagittarians wander, they usually turn around and come home again. You don't have to be there waiting, but you may need to take the tolerant, long-term view rather than nursing spite. Sagittarians both long for and fear stability, but it's more likely they'll long for it if it isn't strapped to their shoulders like a millstone. They're driven by a vague anxiety about their mortality, and they have difficulty living in a body at all because it reminds them of their mortal limits.

Their visions of love are likely to be so grandiose and mythic that you can never hope to match the vision. You need both confidence and humour to let your Sagittarian partner pursue the unobtainable and get disillusioned by it. Of course there are lots of Sagittarians who are fully willing and able to make a commitment in relationship. But they still don't like being caged, and that means psychological as well as sexual caging.

Learn to join their wild imaginative flights, or else quietly get on with your own life. But never, never nag or demean those dreams. It's tragic to see a Centaur bound and gagged by someone who can't appreciate their freedom-loving spirit. Emotional manipulation and the crushing of their dreams may keep your Sagittarian housebound, but deep down, you will have lost them.

Sagittarians need to believe in something, and they need goals, even if the goals aren't realistic. Reminding a Sagittarius that his dream is silly or childish is the best way of driving him off after a new arrow. But then, if you didn't believe a little in those dreams, you wouldn't be with a Sagittarian anyway, would you?

Sagittarius can be the most generous of souls, both materially and emotionally. They don't like demands, but they can surprise and enchant loved ones with their enthusiasm and magnanimity. They can be self-centred and insensitive, but it's never out of malice or coldness. You have to simply tell them, without ten years of covert resentment brewing beneath the surface, "You forgot that it's my birthday."

Sagittarians believe in democracy, so don't try the "Do it because I say so" routine, because you'll just get laughed at or abandoned. Sagittarius needs and deeply appreciates a friend who can share those wonderful dreams, and who will be there when he lands with a bump (which he inevitably does, sooner or later). That isn't really a great deal to ask, when you think of all the warmth, enthusiasm, generosity, humour and inspiration the Sagittarian partner can offer. After all, what are friends for?

The Sagittarius man

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